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Writing About and Raising Fearless Girls

Categories: Faculty insight, Uncategorized
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Date posted: March 1, 2018

There’s a movement afoot, a seismic shift among educators and parents, a longing to engender “Mighty Girls”*, to create “The Gutsy Girl”*; daughters who are resilient, persistent, courageous, problem solvers; female students who know themselves and are willing to push their limits. Girls who fulfill their potential, stand up to bullies, and hold their heads up high.

We know that shattering the glass ceiling, rather than wearing the glass slipper, is as much about education and opportunity as it is about temperament.

Unbeknown to me when I set out to write, “Maddie Makes a Movie”, I was to become part of this change.

 

 

 

 

 

Maddie is a risk taker, a resilient problem solver in the face of her many problems, and a character with her own unique identity.

“Maddie… is a heart stealer. Readers will love her enthusiasm and commitment to her big ideas.” 

(Eileen Cook, Author of With Malice)

 

So how do we, as parents create opportunities for our girls to excel:

 

  1. Examine our own fears

The desire to protect our children from harm is innate and reflexive. It can be all consuming but parents need to push through their own anxiety and let children take acceptable risks.

When introducing my daughter to the North Shore Mountain Bike trails, I asked a very experienced rider to lead the way. I still had to bite my tongue and resist the urge to scream Careful! And Slow Down! With a great deal of self-control, I replaced my concerns with a sense of joy at hearing her whoops and cries of delight.

 

  1. Set the example

Find genuine examples of times when you are heading outside your comfort zone and talk about the process. For me, that usually involves technology. Last summer, I wanted to create a website, and expand my presence on social media. I procrastinated to an embarrassing extent. Then feeling totally inadequate, I started, faced problems, searched for answers that seemed to come in another language, and finally succeeded.

 

  1. Get girls outside

Nature doesn’t care what a girl is wearing but it does teach your daughter about appropriate clothing for the adventure. Dusty trails demonstrate the effectiveness of good hiking shoes. Snow covered mountains reveal the limitations of princess dresses or cut off jean shorts and lacy crop tops. Climbing trees make leggings and t-shirts an obvious choice.

 

   4.  Involve your daughter when assessing risks

As adults, we are constantly weighing up the pros and cons of activities. Voicing these can help our daughters learn this important life skill. When our daughter wanted to ride her skateboard to school we asked her to write her own risk assessment. Aged ten, she listed all the potential hazards and came up with a safe solution for each risk. I am hoping the same process will work when talking about teenage parties, dating, career choices and other milestones.

 

  1. Allow your daughter to fail

If you always hold your daughter when she swings on the monkey bars, how will she ever know if she can get across on her own? Allow her to scratch her knees, make a mess (and clean up after herself), and construct a cubby that collapses. Then let her try again, and again. Resist the temptation to offer solutions. Instead, acknowledge the situation and the emotions that accompany it, then reassure and encourage. It’s okay. What could you do differently when you try again?

 

  1. What is true for girls is true for boys as well

The only constant rule I have in parenting is “never assume.” Don’t assume boys will feel brave and girls will be conscientious. Let them surprise you as they shoot for the stars.

 

“Maddie Makes a Movie” will be published on May 1.

You are all invited to join author, Sonia Garrett, and illustrator, Stevie Hale-Jones, to celebrate the launch of this fictional gutsy girl.

When:           Friday May 4, 5:30 – 7:00pm

Where:         Capilano Library – Potlatch Room

                        3045 Highland Blvd

                        Edgemont Village, North Vancouver

 

 

*www.facebook.com/amightygirl

*The Gutsy Girl: Escapades for Your Life of Epic Adventure

by Caroline P

The Power of Stories

Categories: Faculty insight, Learning through discovery, Uncategorized
Authored by:
Date posted: November 10, 2017

Each week I find myself in the privileged position of being able to tell an age appropriate story in Sitka and Arbutus classrooms. These can be traditional tales, myths and legends, animal stories, family stories or anecdotes. Some stories the children know, some are new, and some become requested favourites, while others remind a listener of an experience that they wish to share.

 When choosing the stories to share, I usually make a large pot of tea and happily work through my many notebooks and story collections until the right tale strikes a harmonious chord. Recently, when looking for a Remembrance Day story, I came across this story, first told to me by a gifted storyteller, Dan Kading.

 

The Two Warriors

Two warriors faced each other, bloodied and bruised from their battle. Exhausted, they slumped to the ground, deciding to renew their fight the following day. Lying side by side as the light faded, they started to talk to each other. One produced a picture of his son back home, who would one day become a soldier like his father. The other told of his daughter back home who would one day be a nurse, to care for wounded soldiers like them. The two enemies continued this way until the sun began to rise. Struggling to their feet, they sheathed their swords, embraced each other, and parted in opposite directions, for truly it is impossible for two people to hate each other when they know each other’s story.

For me, it sums up the power inherent in stories. All that is needed is a teller, a listener, and a tale. The teller and the listener bring something of their own life experience to the moment. Together they’re both making the same journey. A warm relationship grows between the two through that storytelling moment. Connections are made.

 

As adults, we are often time-poor, but a few minutes of storytelling can transform the way we relate to others. Try:

  • Telling your children about your lunchtime, what you ate, where you sat, whom you were with, etc.
  • Tell someone about a random act of kindness you’ve experienced.
  • Share a moment of success, or a challenge, face-to-face with someone.
  • Recount a memory from your childhood.

Then be there to listen. Be part of the teller, tale, and listener triad. Experience the power of making connections, the power of storytelling.

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